The Oscar Pretorius trial has highlighted for me that so many South Africans seek revenge, retribution and punishment. There is general lack of empathy due to a total ignorance of basic psychology, human action, human reaction and what gives rise to human behavior. The Nation gathered their collective dark sides and projected that onto Oscar. He became the Scapegoat for those who keep their dark sides nicely hidden from the public eye. Public polls on radio and TV stations call for the ultimate sentence: ” Bring back the death penalty”. ” Lock him up and throw the key away” is one of the many self-righteous pleas for harsh punishment. They substitute bullets with words and thoughts…….and think they are not committing murder.
During this whole trial, there was lone voice that spoke to the core – Dr Dorianne Weil, better known as Dr Dee. Such a pity she got so little airtime. And the core for me is : we cannot make this just about THE EVENT; we need to learn from this and address the source of violent, aggressive behavior.
It is high time that parents are educated about the developmental needs of their children, that they incorporate healthy attachment parenting styles in order to raise well balanced, emotionally intelligent adults.
In dié SARIE verhoudingsblog gaan Grete Becker, ’n terapeut van Kaapstad, weekliks oor verhoudings skryf en spesifieke onderwerpe bespreek. Grete is ’n Imago-terapeut van Kaapstad. Imago-terapie fokus op verhoudings en gee paartjies en gesinne hulpmiddels en perspektief tydens enige fase van die verhouding.
Ek het al voorheen geskryf die Imago-verhoudingsteorie voorspel dat alle verhoudings deur voorspelbare, maar tog onafwendbare, fases gaan. Die romantiese fase, die ontnugteringsfase, die kop-in-die-sand-fase waar ons aangaan en voorgee dat alles piekfyn is, die fase waar julle besluit julle gaan hulp soek, dan werk aan die verhouding en die groot beloning: ware liefde.Continue reading →
Imago Relationship Therapy is an integrated therapeutic process for working with individuals, couples, families, groups and business colleagues in order to enhance relational dynamics in the relationships they share. Imago workshops are hosted by qualified Imago relationship coach and facilitator, Grete Becker, in both Cape Town and Johannesburg. Imago Relationship Theory provides a blueprint for creating stronger and satisfying partnerships. The Relationship IS the therapy. Continue reading →
The Imago Cape Town workshop is for people who are serious about their relationships. Grete Becker is a qualified relationship coach and marriage counsellor and during the next workshop taking place on 20 and 21 September, she will present a dynamic and modern approach to healing and enriching relationships. Continue reading →