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Time to wake up

The Oscar Pretorius trial has highlighted for me that so many South Africans seek revenge, retribution and punishment.  There is general lack of empathy due to a total ignorance of basic psychology, human action, human reaction and what gives rise to human behavior. The Nation gathered their collective dark sides and projected that onto Oscar. He became the Scapegoat for those who keep their dark sides nicely hidden from the public eye. Public polls on radio and TV  stations call for the ultimate sentence: ” Bring back the death penalty”. ” Lock him up and throw the key away” is one of the many self-righteous pleas for harsh punishment.  They substitute bullets with words and thoughts…….and think they are not committing murder.

During this whole trial, there was lone voice that spoke to the core – Dr Dorianne Weil, better known as Dr Dee. Such a pity she got so little airtime. And the core for me is : we cannot make this just about THE EVENT; we need to learn from this and address the source of violent, aggressive behavior.

Read this article by Gabor Mate  on rage against women.

It is high time that parents are educated about the developmental needs of their children, that they incorporate healthy attachment parenting styles in order to raise well balanced, emotionally intelligent adults.

Imago Couples Workshop in Cape Town

The Imago Couples Workshop in Cape Town will enable you to develop a vibrant and connected relationship by teaching skills that promote understanding, growth and safety in the relationship.

Imago Couples workshop 15 Nov 2014

Imago Couples workshop 15 Nov 2014

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Imago Relationship Theory: Making Marriage Simple

Marriage is anything BUT simple; being and staying in a committed relationship is
complicated and challenging at the best of times.  “Imago Relationship Theory: Making Marriage Simple” will be the topic of my talk at this year’s South African College of Applied Psychology (SACAP) festival taking place on 3 September.  Continue reading

SARIE Verhoudingsblog: “Moet ek bly of skei”

Sedert ons Imago-terapeut Grete Becker met haar verhoudingsblog begin het, het die vrae ingestroom. Grete beantwoord van die eerstes hier onder:SARIE-leser se vraag:

Ek is al 21 jaar getroud en het twee kinders. ’n Seun van 11 en ’n dogter van 14.3 jaar gelede het my man ’n seksuele verhouding met ’n geskeide vrou gehad. Ek het ’n jaar later uitgetrek en ná 2 jaar het hy hul verhouding beëindig en ons het weer probeer.Ek het besef ek het ook foute gemaak. Ek het terapeut gaan sine en alles in ons verhouding gegee. Ek het my gedrag verander, my kop geswaai, en baie dinge maar net aanvaar vir wie en wat hy is. Continue reading

Verhoudingsblog: ‘My kêrel se ouers ken nie hul plek nie’ | SARIE

In dié blog gaan Grete Becker, ’n terapeut van Kaapstad, weekliks oor verhoudings skryf en spesifieke onderwerpe bespreek. Grete is ’n Imago-terapeut van Kaapstad. Imago-terapie fokus op verhoudings en gee paartjies en gesinne hulpmiddels en perspektief tydens enige fase van die verhouding.

Verhoudingsblog: ‘My kêrel se ouers ken nie hul plek nie’ | SARIE