The Oscar Pretorius trial has highlighted for me that so many South Africans seek revenge, retribution and punishment. There is general lack of empathy due to a total ignorance of basic psychology, human action, human reaction and what gives rise to human behavior. The Nation gathered their collective dark sides and projected that onto Oscar. He became the Scapegoat for those who keep their dark sides nicely hidden from the public eye. Public polls on radio and TV stations call for the ultimate sentence: ” Bring back the death penalty”. ” Lock him up and throw the key away” is one of the many self-righteous pleas for harsh punishment. They substitute bullets with words and thoughts…….and think they are not committing murder.
During this whole trial, there was lone voice that spoke to the core – Dr Dorianne Weil, better known as Dr Dee. Such a pity she got so little airtime. And the core for me is : we cannot make this just about THE EVENT; we need to learn from this and address the source of violent, aggressive behavior.
It is high time that parents are educated about the developmental needs of their children, that they incorporate healthy attachment parenting styles in order to raise well balanced, emotionally intelligent adults.
Imago Relationship Therapy is an integrated therapeutic process for working with individuals, couples, families, groups and business colleagues in order to enhance relational dynamics in the relationships they share. Imago workshops are hosted by qualified Imago relationship coach and facilitator, Grete Becker, in both Cape Town and Johannesburg. Imago Relationship Theory provides a blueprint for creating stronger and satisfying partnerships. The Relationship IS the therapy. Continue reading →
Grete Becker, whose topic at SACAP’s Psychology Festival of Learning is – “Imago Relationship Theory: Making Marriage Simple”, provides SPICE4LIFE‘s readers with some expert tips for a simple marriage! Grete is part of the Cape Town line-up of speakers and her talk is happening on Wednesday, 3rd September at 11:30am. Her talk at the Festival will give a brief overview of the different stages of all relationships, look at the higher purpose of committed relationships, explain why conflict is supposed to happen, and look at the Imago profile. Continue reading →
In dié SARIE blog gaan Grete Becker, ’n terapeut van Kaapstad, weekliks oor verhoudings skryf en spesifieke onderwerpe bespreek. Grete is ’n Imago-terapeut van Kaapstad. Imago-terapie fokus op verhoudings en gee paartjies en gesinne hulpmiddels en perspektief tydens enige fase van die verhouding. Continue reading →